Human beings have an inbuilt desire to connect to others in a physical way. From birth, it is our natural instinct to want to be held close to our parent. As we grow, a child will naturally climb on a loved one’s lap, and give kisses and cuddles to express their love to others. Whether we hug our child, a pet, or our grandma, there is a feeling of closeness and connection. In our adult years, connecting with a significant other becomes a priority. Physical intimacy forms a huge part of loving and feeling loved. In clinical practice, I often ask my clients: “How is your libido?” Often they look puzzled and then laugh, replying “What libido?!” They frequently seem resigned to the fact that reduced desire is their fate. But what happens when the want is there, but the sexual desire isn’t? Here are 3 main desire blockers that I frequently see:
Our hormone levels start to decline at mid-life, and these can influence the quality of our sexual activity. Oestrogen is responsible for a process known as vasodilation, which increases blood flow to the sexual organs. So a reduction of oestrogen results in less blood flow when we need it, as well as decreased vaginal lubrication, causing dryness and painful intercourse.Testosterone is responsible for desire and arousal (yes, both men and women produce testosterone!) Therefore, reduced testosterone at menopause results in libido reduction.Long term relationships may lead to less desire for your partner, but there is no reason for this to be the case forever. Many couples still have great intimacy in later life if given the right conditions.
Antibiotics reduce the number of beneficial bacteria in the digestive tract that convert oestrogen into its active form. It’s important to take a good quality probiotic following a course of antibiotics to restore balance to your gastrointestinal tract. There are many different types of probiotic for many different conditions, so ask your practitioner for one that is right for you. Oral contraceptives, hormone replacement therapy and corticosteroid medication (for skin or inflammatory conditions) all reduce testosterone levels. They are also responsible for a number of nutrient deficiencies which are needed to promote enhanced desire. Anti-depressants often lead to weight gain and decreased libido. Cholesterol lowering medication can do the same.If you are taking medication, there are still natural solutions available to assist your individual needs.
3. Adrenal Fatigue:
Our demanding lifestyles place a lot of stress on our nervous system and emotional health. If our days are too fast paced, or we are dealing with domestic, work or financial stress, our adrenal glands will work harder to produce the stress hormones required to manage any threats to our well- being. These hormones, known as glucocorticoids, put our body in sympathetic nervous system dominance, better known as “fight-flight” state. Prolonged strain on relationships will have the same effect. Over time, these factors take a toll on our energy levels, meaning that there is little left to give to your partner in the bedroom. If you are suffering from fatigue, perhaps it’s time to review what stressors may be impacting your life and look for ways to reduce this. There are many other factors that influence libido. If this is something that is a concern for you, I can help. Call me now on 0402 539 020 for more information, or book an appointment online at http://www.torquayholistic.com.au.Yours in Health, Lynda.